Dos and Don’ts When You Are Helping A Dear One To Cope And Fight A Gambling Problem
Addictive gambling starts in the most innocent ways. Most people with gambling problems were earlier sweepstakes/ contests/ lotto buffs who enjoyed winning stuff and cash. Gradually, sometimes out of curiosity and sometimes because they wanted quicker returns they ventured into online casinos, etc and before long they would be totally addicted to it.
If you are helping a friend or a family member to overcome this problem here are some dos and don’ts that you should keep in mind:
- Do Your Homework – find out as much as you can about this problem, i.e. the warning signs, what options you have, what negative impact you should expect, how best to help, and how much time it would take to get your dear one to a full recovery.
- Do Master The Art To Say ‘No’ Firmly – you want to help you should be able to be firm when you say, ‘no’ to the gambler. They would be very persuasive when asking money, but if you want to help you should not give in.
- Do Learn To Stay Calm – out of frustration and desperation, the gambler would become very difficult, recalcitrant, even abusive. You need to learn to control your emotions and push for discussion based on logic. Unless you are calm and patient things can easily go out of hand and communication would totally shut down between you and the person you want to help.
- Unite Others For Help And Support – get other family members united in this effort. Talk to friends to help as well. The more united the loved ones are, the better support can be given to the gambler to overcome the problem.
- Do Motivate The Gambler To Receive Professional Help – the gambler needs professional help besides the support you are extending. Get him enrolled for counseling sessions, self-help groups, and other experts who can help.
- Do Not Blame Or Accuse The Gambler – do not enter into heated arguments with the gambler blaming his to be weak and insensitive. Addiction is a compulsion he cannot help. Heated arguments and blame throwing would only make him defensive and unresponsive.
- Do Not Make Or Accept Any Excuse – say it out aloud. Do not hide, make excuses for the gambler in front of friends or relatives. Make is a point not to sound condescending or blaming when you state the problem to anyone. Do not accept any excuse for the gambling problem either.
- Do Not Lose Patience – this is a long battle; you need to be patient. This is the reason why you too, would need to attend counseling sessions to learn to be patient and how to handle most difficult situations.